HAYWARD -- A memorial service will be held Friday for a Hayward man shot and killed by police this month.

The service for 19-year-old Shawn Joseph Jetmore Stoddard-Nunez will take place at 7 p.m. at Amazing Grace Church in San Leandro, family said.

Police said that on March 3, Arthur Pakman, 23, of Oakley, defied orders during a traffic stop and rammed his Honda into a police cruiser, nearly hitting a civilian riding along with police. The officer fired at the vehicle, striking Stoddard-Nunez, a passenger in the Honda, twice. Police said he was an unintended victim of the shooting.

Pakman was arrested at 3:20 a.m. the day of the incident. He surrendered after fleeing the shooting scene at Fletcher Lane and Watkins Street and crashing at D Street and Foothill Boulevard.

Police have said that had Stoddard-Nunez lived, he likely would not have been charged with a crime in connection with the chase.

They also said they suspect Pakman may have been driving under the influence at the time of the incident. Authorities are awaiting a toxicology report from a blood test taken after the crash.

Family and friends say that on the night of his death, Stoddard-Nunez asked Arthur Pakman for a ride to another friend's house early Sunday after a night of drinking.

Friends called Stoddard-Nunez, a "sweet person" with a gentle smile who was in the wrong passenger seat at the wrong time.

Pakman, 23, of Oakley had met Stoddard-Nunez while he was living in Pinole and attending Pinole Valley High School, said his foster mother, Loretta Hale.

At 14, Stoddard-Nunez came to live with Hale in Pinole after bouncing between foster homes throughout California. He and his brother were moved into a group home in 2011 after they were the victims of a home invasion perpetrated by their friends, according to Hale.

Recently, Stoddard-Nunez was attending a Laney College, had aspirations to be a chef and was living in Hayward with his brother.

Mary Lou Schuler of Hayward, whose foster daughter and biological daughter, both 18, were close with him has called the teen's death unnecessary, saying the officer reacted without thinking about where he was shooting.

Hayward police said they will seek homicide charges against Pakman in connection with Stoddard-Nunez's death, although he has yet to be formally charged. He was arrested on suspicion of felony murder and aggravated assault with a deadly weapon.

Pakman on Thursday was jailed without bail in Contra Costa County for parole violation stemming from a 2010 DUI conviction in connection to his recent arrest, a prosecutor said.

Pakman's Hayward-based attorney, Frederick Remer, has said his client was on his way to visit his girlfriend in Richmond on the morning of the incident and never intended to strike the police car.

Contact Natalie Neysa Alund at 510-293-2469. Follow her Twitter.com/natalealund.