Abusers are con artists

I am referring to the Sept. 16 front-page article that shows Ross Mirkarimi adorably trundling his toddler. Really?

Abusers are remarkably manipulative con artists, reading their audiences and showing whatever is admired.

Law enforcement officers are among the most difficult to escape and can be most lethal. The abuser appearing out-of-control to his wife and children can become charming and thoughtful instantly to others.

Only the abused family (and neighbors) know how terrifying he can be. Most are admired by men.

The pattern goes: Enchant her, followed by escalating demands, constant criticism, brainwashing and isolation. Such behavior leaves intelligent, strong, skilled women dazed and overwhelmed. Her part is trying to get the enchanted beginning back again.

So, Sheriff Mirkarimi hurts his wife, fearing she will leave him? She, as an immigrant, fears loss of custody. And the Times dutifully shows his charm.

I fear for Eliana Lopez and her son.

Ria Tanz Kubota

El Sobrante Kubota, a retired registered nurse, is a marriage and family therapist with expertise in domestic violence.

Romney's bluster during the crisis

With the turmoil in Libya and more American lives lost, Mitt Romney's response to the latest crisis lacks the depth we need from a leader.

Instead of a measured, reasoned reaction to the storming of our American embassies, we get inept recitation of the facts and blustery boasting about American military prowess. It feels as if we have yet another Republican presidential candidate eager to plunge us into another war.

In the past decade, we've lost thousands of American men and women to bloody conflicts in the Middle East.

It's time for war and threats of war to stop.

David Ogden

Walnut Creek

Will leaders ever stop pandering to Islam?

Your front-page feature article regarding the 9/11 anniversary poses the question: "Will this wound ever be healed?" In my opinion, this will not happen until the alleged majority of "good" Muslims prevail over the alleged minority of "bad" Muslims.

Possibly the paper should ask the question, "When will our political and media leaders stop pandering to Islam?" Could this be based on fear? It is apparent to me that Islam is not being held to the same standards of civility, tolerance, and behavior as other religions and/or cultures.

Our alleged Christian president has not, to the best of my knowledge, expressed outrage and indignation regarding how Christians are being treated in most of the Islamic world. I would like to have a dollar for every news story I have seen or read regarding killings and/or destruction of Christian churches in the Islamic world.

No religion deserves preferential treatment. Tolerance is a two-way street.

Edward Zawatson

Concord

We have right to speak freely

This is in response to a Sept. 24 letter, "Protests in the Muslim world," by Nabil Rageh, the chairman of Walnut Creek Islamic Center.

I disagree with the last paragraph of the letter, "Nobody should have the right to deeply insult and ridicule the beliefs and faiths of others."

Rageh must remember that he lives in the United States of America and freedom of speech is exactly that: freedom of speech. If we don't like what somebody says, we have the right to not listen.

Every American has the right to say whatever they want, regardless if it offends anybody. That's true freedom. If an individual cannot accept this, that person is free to live elsewhere.

Christopher Coad

Antioch

Weaken the country by weakening language

Have you ever tried to communicate with a person on the phone who does not have an adequate command of the English language?

Or read instructions in three languages before opening a prescription bottle?

Or wonder why schools are contributing to the problem by watering down curriculum to appease those deficient in our language?

Our country traditionally embraced a "melting pot" mentality, not a multicultural mentality.

Weaken our language and you weaken America.

Selma Soss

Walnut Creek