Maria Bello has come out as a lesbian.
The "A History of Violence" actress wrote an op-ed piece for the New York Times that ran Friday, in which she says she has a serious girlfriend and describes telling her 12-year-old son that she was in a relationship with a woman.
Bello says Jackson, her son with producer Dan McDermott, asked her if she was romantically involved with anybody.
"He was right; I was with someone romantically and I hadn't told him," the 46-year-old actress wrote. "I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son."
Bello said she was in one relationship with a woman before her current one, but that otherwise, she'd always been with men.
About a year before talking to her son, Bello wrote that she was looking through photos of old boyfriends.
"As I continued to look through photos, I came across a black-and-white one of my best friend and me taken on New Year's Eve," she wrote. "We looked so happy, I couldn't help but smile. I remembered how we had met two years before. ... We had an immediate connection but didn't think of it as romantic or sexual. She was one of the most beautiful, charming, brilliant and funny people I had ever met, but it didn't occur to me, until that soul-searching moment in my garden, that we could perhaps choose to love each other romantically."
Bello recalled wondering how her relationship would effect her son and her career. At least the latter doesn't seem to be a problem, as Bello most recently starred as Hugh Jackman's wife in the thriller "Prisoners."
She wrote that when she came out to her "large, Italian-Polish, 'traditional' Philadelphia family," her father said "'She's a good girl, good for you.'"
"My mother and family echoed his sentiments. Maybe they weren't so traditional after all," Bello wrote.
Without giving details, Bello also wrote that she had a serious illness last summer ("At one point it looked as if I might not survive," she wrote), and that her girlfriend joined Jackson, her parents, her brother and McDermott ("the best father and the most wonderful man I know") at her hospital bedside every day.
Bello concluded, "Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, 'love is love.'"